“My daughter is learning to cook. I feel proud. I feel guilty.” Motherwell, March 18, 2024. | “Cooking may have a rich history in my family, but that history is almost exclusively female. My children have noticed. Although I required both kids to learn the same survival menu of grilled cheese, eggs, and a smoothie, my son’s culinary interest ended once we unplugged the blender. His sister will seek me out to bake cookies; he will add chocolate chips if he can eat the rest of the bag.” |
“Back of the box recipes from Great-Grandma? Family treasure.” The Christian Science Monitor, March 6, 2024 | “He craves heirlooms, provenance. If only there was a piece of antique furniture from a great-aunt, a Civil War saber from a distant cousin. If only there was treasure. There is a set of floral china, pieced together by my grandma from mid-’90s estate sales, but that’s not quite the legacy he yearns for. To his old soul, we’re mostly a profound disappointment: a family that doesn’t keep things.” |
“The Sacred Space” The Unmooring, issue 2, page 50 (text-only version) | “It would be many more years before I would arrive at an uneasy peace with my spiritual wandering. I would endure many more dark nights of the soul, many cataclysmic moments of transcendence, before I accepted that I’ll never settle for only one way of knowing God. Before any of that, there was a Saturday night in early April. It was the day before my due date, and as I settled my massive, unbalanced body into bed next to my husband, we both thought everything was fine—aside from the indignities of late pregnancy, of course.” |
“A Wildness Not Distant From Ourselves.” The Unmooring, issue 4, page 10 | “I had always explained this lack of success by saying I just wasn’t a plant person. The many plant deaths suffered at my hands had nothing to do with my utter ignorance of their basic light, water, or nutrient needs; it was fate. Some people were born with green thumbs, I said. Mine was black. A label like that is nice for the ego. As long as I was a non-plant person—or, less charitably, a plant killer—I had an excellent excuse not to try too hard to keep them alive. Trying is a vulnerable endeavor. It’s alerting others that you want something you don’t have, and for most of my life, that was not the kind of information I wished to disclose.” |